Thursday, July 19, 2012

Do you belong?

"Are you a groupie?" was going to be the title of this blog but then I decided that perhaps I should find out how a "groupie" is defined.  Well...  let's just say the blog title changed because apparently a "groupie" is a woman who just wants to have sex with a musician with little regard for his music.

What I really want to talk about is "groups".

With a presidential election on the horizon and the Penn State scandal in the gutter, I started noticing that there are definite groups forming very publicly, with very deliberate and intentional choice.

Driving to class I see bumper stickers on cars that identify people belonging to certain school groups, or green movements or human rights organizations.

I began to wonder... what groups am I a part of? Well I it all depends on what/who I am and how I "label" myself.  I am a college student. I am a wife. I am a mother. I am a dog owner. I am a cat owner. I am a veteran. I own a Ford. I like to hike. I don't watch television. I like "Life is Good" optimistic t-shirts. I do not like to wear dresses. I prefer the beach in the winter. For the most part, I chose membership in all those groups.

But - what about the groups I am a member of by default? I am  5' 2" - that kinda puts me in a "short people" group. I have gray hairs. I am almost 50 years old. I am the oldest sibling of three children. I am female. I have hypertension. I have astigmatism. I am the parent of a college student.

Are there groups you are a member of that you regret? I regret that I am a member of the only child club until I hear about these poor parents with multiple children running in so many directions. I regret that I am a member of that group of women identified by Oprah a few years ago who probably wear the wrong sized bra. I regret that I am a member of that group of people who probably do not have enough money saved for retirement based on where they are in life.

I suppose most of our group memberships are transient. I guess we even go into and out of groups in the blink of an eye and give it no notice.

Is it necessary to belong to groups? Is that why people pick their favorite NASCAR driver?  Or become college football fans even though they never stepped foot on the specific campus? I think Facebook has created groups where they were never imagined before...  people who like Skinny Cow ice cream...  :O)

Are there groups you would like to belong to? Are there groups you would like to no longer be a member of? Are there groups you avoid at all cost? Is there a group you would like to belong to secretly? (I think they might become societies if they are secretive.) Are there groups you want your children to avoid? Groups you want your parents to avoid?

Do you put other people into groups?

How do your groups define you?

Saturday, July 7, 2012

What will be important in twenty years?

This morning on there was a link to a video on Youtube about a creative videographer. The man is now 32 years old and has a creative conversation with himself when he was 12 through the use of technology. I sense a tidbit of Billy Crystal in the adult actor. I like Billy Crystal, but that is another blog entirely...

I started thinking about how much fun this could be.  It doesn't even really have to be this same agenda... just videotaping ourselves (which very few people like to do) or videotaping others (with their permission of course).

What would I say if I was making a video today to watch in twenty years? Today I would probably talk about how stinking hot it is because that is all anyone seems to be able to think about. In twenty years I would wonder why there wasn't something more important to say about the day. But what is important? The price of gas? The upcoming presidential election? The unstable economy? What will you want to know about this day, July 7, 2012, in twenty years? Or maybe more important, what will you want help remembering? But I am not sure what I talk about is most important... it will be me...  and that is the focus as far as I am concerned because you can read all about all of those other topics in archives around the world.

What would I have said twenty years ago if I was making a video? I am certain I would have said that I was more than a little uncomfortable being pregnant in Oklahoma in the middle of summer and probably couldn't wait until October for the baby to be born. I had no idea that the twenty years would go by so fast that it nearly makes me feel faint.  Yes - Kate will be 20 in less than three months.

For many years, moms and dads have taken annual pictures of their children on their first day of school, Christmas morning in front of the tree, birthdays....  Why not step it up a notch and do a video? I believe high school yearbooks now have an online video component...  How cool would it be to make one for your own child? I am sure they still sell those "memory books" to keep track of friends, teachers and activities with a pocket for report cards, etc. if you need a format guideline. Thinking  your older kids wouldn't want to participate?  Let them do it on their own...  it might tell you way more about them than anything you could come up with.  It doesn't have to be serious or even perfect.  Who doesn't love the "blooper" clips out of movies?

Most cameras have the ability to do video and I think all laptops have a webcam now... you've got this... go ahead and have fun with it.  It is going to be 103 degrees outside today... stay in the house and record history.